Confidence: So easy to lose & hard to gain

Taking a small break from talking about beauty products to share something that has been heavy on my heart for months now. Confidence. What is is about that word that can either make someone roll their eyes, cower in the corner or stand proudly? Why is the one thing that keeps people pushing forward, so hard to gain in yourself and yet so easy to lose with 1 comment? 

My business motto has always been “Live life with confidence in your own skin”. What does that even mean? To me, it means when you leave my care, I want you to feel like a superstar. Empowered to take on the world, finally seeing the beauty within you and know that you don’t need to surgically alter yourself to feel beautiful. Makeup has always been something easy to throw on and change your outlook. Did you know that a facial or a good brow wax could do the same thing? 

So, where do I stand on this issue? You must be thinking, she owns her own start up business, is married and happy, she must be confident in her work & life. NOPE! I too struggle with lack of self confidence and anxiety. The combination is at times crippling to the point of canceling all plans, because I just can’t get out of bed. However, I do know that I am good at what I do. Even though I’m not perfect and have room for improvement (who doesn’t?) I know that my skills and talents have gotten me this far. Although, let me tell you a story. While still in school for makeup artistry, I quickly remembered that I am not an artist. I can’t draw to save my life, I’m not creative if I’m not in the mood & without much guidance I didn’t feel like I was improving in my makeup artistry. Cut to working on my first professional photo shoot. I show up on time to the studio and I’m about to knock on the door when I hear the voices of the client and photographer. I stopped myself from knocking because I heard the client say, “Well, I brought my own makeup so I can do my own if it doesn’t look good”. Wow. Talk about a double punch to the heart & gut. I was already nervous and then I have to walk in and introduce myself after that statement? I almost turned and walked away. Instead I took a deep breath, told myself “it’s a paying job, remember what your instructor said about how people treat makeup artists” and knocked on the door. I waited my turn to work on her since the stylist went first to do her hair & when it was my turn, it was a race against the clock. I finished her look, she looked beautiful and they went on their way to shoot outdoors. When I was alone in the studio to pack up my products, I almost started crying because while I knew she looked great, did she? Was she going to “fix” what I did when they left my presence? I called my husband on the way home and told him I felt like a failure. He told me not to worry about it, reminded me of my talent & told me to come home so we could go on a date. 

Cut to this past weekend event with the cosmetics brand I freelance for. I worked on so many beautiful women that bashed themselves in my chair! I can’t tell you how many times I threatened to slap the back of their heads (Gibbs style) if they continued the negative self talk. I threw together a quick and easy day time look for each of them that made their eyes pop and skin flawless. The look on their faces was priceless, one of the gorgeous ladies almost started to cry.

That is what living life with confidence in your own skin means. It means accepting who you are (flaws and all) but learning to accentuate your best features. Once you do that you start smiling more, stand straighter, people take notice and before you know it, you are taking over the world and empowering others to be confident like you. 

So get out there and show the world your confident self! Remember this as you go, it’s ok to lose your confidence once in a while but.... surround yourself with people that want to build it back up. That’s the difference between staying negative and building your empire.